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Happy Thursday and happy NOW. Thanks for diving into Mental Plane mastery this month of love!
Self-care retreat within work, in quiet reflection, makes us stronger in the new NOW we are creating. We are all impacted by outside influences. Reflection gives us perspective and the power to choose how we take in everything. Journal your thoughts to make this musing real and personal. Go to the private Living in the NOW Champions Facebook page today, too! You will always have positive NOW experiences there.
So, we put our heart and soul into something and wait with bated breath for someone else to tell us whether it’s good or not. Whether it’s a project at work, a painting we’re working on, or even just a text we’ve sent, we often find ourselves waiting for external validation, reassurance, or a simple nod from others before feeling confident in ourselves.
And while there’s nothing wrong with seeking feedback from others, relying solely on external validation can actually do more harm than good. Here are five ways relying on opinions, approvals or any type of external validation can steal your NOW and hold you back from being your best this year.
1. It Can Make You Overly Reliant on Other People’s Opinions
When you rely too much on what other people think, you can end up losing sight of your own opinion. It’s easy to get caught up in seeking approval from others and forget what you really think and feel. This can make it difficult to make decisions and stick to them because you’re always second-guessing yourself. Learning to trust your own opinion is an important retreat within self-care skill to have if you want to be confident in yourself and your mission in life.
2. It Can Prevent You from Taking Risks
If you’re too worried about what other people will think, you may find yourself shying away from taking risks. After all, it can be scary to put yourself out there when you’re not sure if you’ll be met with approval or criticism. But taking risks is often necessary if you want to achieve something great and move as your new NOW leads. Stepping outside of your comfort zone can help you grow as a person and reach your full potential. Plus, it’s still all about being happy and healthy in the moment you are in!
3. It Can Make You Feel Like You’re Not Good Enough
Needing constant approval from others is a surefire way to boost your insecurities. Every time you don’t get the reaction you were hoping for, it feels like a personal slight. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness that can become hard to shake off with the endless Mental Plane chatter that reminds you of being hurt. Remind yourself that not everyone is going to like everything you do and that’s okay. What matters most is how you feel about yourself and your accomplishments and that is formed during your self-care retreat within times of speaking and seeing the truth. Self-care first always gives you the power to choose how you respond in your new NOW.
4. It Impacts Your Relationships with Others
If you’re constantly seeking some type of validation from others, you may have difficulty developing close, meaningful relationships. You may also find yourself in unhealthy relationships with people who take advantage of you.
Relying on external validation can make you more prone to jealousy and envy. Instead of valuing yourself and your own accomplishments, you may find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others and feeling inadequate. Respecting yourself and appreciating your gifts is the foundation built while listening to your true self during journal work and quiet time. Self-care first is the secret to making each day your best and self-care is your NOW resource for creating balanced relationships. Positives overflow.
5. It Can Keep You from Enjoying Your New NOW
The anticipation of waiting for someone else’s approval can steal your NOW because your Mental Plane is in the future and not in the moment you are in. If you’re constantly living in fear of how others will react, you’re not going to enjoy or participate fully in the perfect moment you are in.
Instead of worrying about what other people think, try to focus on enjoying what you’re doing at the moment. This can help reduce stress and make the experience more enjoyable and productive.
Constantly looking outside for any type of validation prevents you from living in the NOW where your true self leads. Trust your Physical Plane inner strength to enjoy and fully participate in the new NOW process you have control of on purpose. Mental and Physical Plane mastery balances your NOW and that helps you “notice” the abundant Spiritual Plane that is and always has been available to you.
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Sharing validates in good ways! Love yourself first, love your NOW and love others unconditionally!