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Creating a loving relationship with yourself is a funny thing because most people simply do not know how to reject the outside world’s thinking.
Self-validation requires acknowledging and accepting all aspects of yourself, including the good, the bad, and the ugly. It does not mean thinking that you are always right but rather analyzing yourself truthfully, making changes where possible, and accepting parts of yourself that cannot change.
Rejecting yourself can be a cruel form of self-invalidation that stops the entire self-validation process. When you reject yourself, you slam the brakes on your ability to analyze and accept parts of yourself, work through your problems, process difficult emotions, or celebrate the parts of yourself that are unique and positive. That’s how the old NOW controlled you.
To stop this harmful form of invalidation, consider the following strategies:
Make a list of ten things you like about yourself, no matter how big or small they might be. Keep the list somewhere visible and revisit it often, especially when you’re struggling to accept or like yourself. As you think of new things, add them to your list. Journal the positives.
Challenge your negative thoughts and replace them with more positive ones. When you have a negative thought, say it out loud and challenge yourself to find a flaw in the logic behind it. Often, negative thoughts are rooted in anxiety, insecurity, or some other imagined exaggeration that isn’t true. Once you identify the flaw, replace the negative thought with something more positive and truthful.
Celebrate your accomplishments, big or small. Congratulate yourself on a job well done and let yourself feel love and appreciation from yourself when you do something right. The way you choose to speak to yourself has a huge impact on your overall attitude about yourself.
Use more positive Mental Plane mind’s self-talk for the endless speaking toward yourself, especially when you do something well, to encourage a more positive internal culture within yourself. Stand in front of the mirror and look into your own eyes. See what others see and retreat within to know your truth and live your message. The NOW is all you need to create your perfect life and become your unlimited self.