Our Mental Plane accepts whatever we choose to believe. What I believe about myself and about life becomes true for me. What you choose to think about yourself, and life becomes true for you. And we all have unlimited choices about what we can think.
When we know this, then it makes sense to make wise choices. Thinking “Everyone is always helpful,” rather than “People are out to get me,” changes your Physical Plane world.
The universal power never judges or criticizes us. It only accepts us at our own value. Then it reflects our beliefs back into our lives. If my Mental Plane mind wants to believe that life is lonely and that nobody loves me, then that’s what I will find in my Physical Plane world.
However, if I’m willing to release that belief and to affirm for myself that love is everywhere and I am loving and lovable, and to hold on to that new affirmation and to repeat it often, then it will become true for me. NOW loving people will come into my life. The people already in my life will be more loving to me. And I will find myself easily expressing love to others.
Most of us have foolish ideas about who we are and many, many rigid rules about how life should be lived. This is not to condemn us, for each of us is doing the very best we can at this very moment. If we knew better, if we had more understanding and awareness, then we would do it differently.
Please don’t put yourself down for being where you are. The very fact that you have found this living in the NOW community and have discovered ways to be in your new NOW means that you are ready to make a new and positive change in your life. Acknowledge this for yourself.
What limiting ideas do you live with? When we are very little, we learn how to feel about ourselves and about life by the reactions of the adults around us. It is the way we learn what to think about ourselves and about our world. Now if you live with people who are very unhappy, or frightened, guilty, or angry, then you learned a lot of negative things about yourself and about your world.
Men don’t cry.
Women can’t handle money.
I never do anything right.
This is all my fault.
If I get angry, I’m a bad person.
Beliefs like these create a frustrating life. When we grow up, we have a tendency to recreate the emotional environment of our early home life. This is not good or bad, right or wrong. It is just what we know inside as home.
We also tend to recreate in our personal relationships the relationships we had with our mothers or with our fathers, or that they had between them.
How often have you had a lover or a boss who was just like your mother or father? We also treat ourselves the way our parents treated us. We scold and punish ourselves in the same way. You can almost hear the words when you listen.
You never do anything right.
It’s all your fault.
How often have you said this to yourself?
You are wonderful.
I love you.
How often do you tell yourself this?
However, I would not blame our parents. We are all victims of victims, and they could not possibly have taught us anything they did not know.
If your mother did not know how to love herself, or your father did not know how to love himself then it would be impossible for them to teach you to love yourself. They were doing the best they could with what they had been taught as children. If you want to understand your parents more, get them to talk about their own childhood. And if you listen with compassion. You will learn where their fears and rigid patterns came from.
Those people who did all that stuff to you were just as frightened and scared as you are. We learn our belief systems as little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience. Well, I believe you created those experiences over and over because they mirrored something you believed about yourself.
It does not really matter how long we’ve had a problem, or how big it is, or how life threatening it is, the point of power is always in the present NOW moment. All the events you have experienced in your lifetime up to this moment have been created by thoughts and beliefs you have held in the past.
They were created by the thoughts and words you used yesterday, last week, last month, last year, or 10, 20, 30, or 40 years ago, depending on how old you are.
The key NOW is to remember that is your past, your old NOW. It is over and done with. Your past is significant because it has brought you right here, right NOW.
What is important in this NOW moment is what you are choosing to think and believe and say things right NOW. These thoughts and words will create your future NOW.
Your point of power is in this present NOW moment, forming the experiences of tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, and the next year.
You might notice what thoughts you were thinking at this moment as you read this. Are they negative or positive? Do you want these thoughts to be creating your future NOW?
Just notice and be aware. The only thing we are ever dealing with is a thought, and a thought can be changed.
“No matter what the problem is, know that your Physical Plane experiences are just outer effects of your Mental Plane’s inner thoughts.” PJ Zito
Even self-hatred is only hating a thought you have about yourself. You have a thought that says I am a bad person. And this thought produces a feeling, and you buy into the feeling. However, if you don’t have the thought, you won’t have the feeling.
And thoughts can be changed. Change the thought and the feeling must go. This is only to show us where we get many of our beliefs.
This information cannot be used as an excuse to stay stuck in old NOW pain. The past has no power over your self-care first new NOW.
It doesn’t matter how long we have had a negative pattern. The point of power is always in the present new NOW moment.
What a wonderful thing to realize. We can begin to be free in this new NOW moment.
Believe it or not, we do choose our thoughts. We may habitually think the same thought over and over, so that it does not seem like we are choosing the thought, but we did make the original choice.
We can refuse to think certain thoughts. Look how often you have refused to think of positive thoughts about yourself. You can also refuse to think negatively about yourself.
It seems to me that everyone on this planet who I know or have worked with is suffering from self-hatred and guilt in some degree or another. The more self-hatred and guilt we have, the less our life works. The less self-hatred and guilt we have, the better our lives work on all levels.
The innermost belief for everyone is always self-doubting, saying, “I’m not good enough” and “I don’t do enough”. Or “I don’t deserve.”
Does this sound familiar? Implying or feeling that you are not good enough? But for whom and according to whose standards? If this belief is very strong in you, then how can you possibly create a loving, joyous, prosperous, healthy life?
Somehow your main subconscious belief would always be contradicting it. Somehow you would never quite get it together, or something would always be going wrong somewhere.
Resentment, criticism, guilt, and fear cause more problems than anything else. These four things cause the major problems in our Physical Plane minds and that influences our Physical Plane bodies and changes our lives.
These feelings come from blaming others and not taking responsibility for our own experiences. If we are all responsible for everything in our lives, then there is no one to blame. Whatever is happening out there is only a mirror of our own inner thinking. I am not condoning other people’s poor behavior, but it is our beliefs that attract people who will treat us that way.
If you find yourself saying everyone always does such and such to me, criticizes me, is never there for me, uses me like a doormat, abuses me, then this is your pattern.
There is some thought in you that attracts people who exhibit this behavior.
When you no longer think that way, they will go elsewhere. You will no longer attract on the Physical Plane level. Resentment, long held, can eat away at the Physical Plane body. Guilt is Mental Plane’s endless self-talk chatter, always looks for punishment, and punishment creates pain. Forgiving and releasing resentment will dissolve health issues. That creates your happy NOW.
While this may sound simplistic, we can still choose to change our attitude toward the past. The past is over and done. We cannot change that old NOW. Yet, we can choose to change our thoughts about the past. How foolish for us to punish ourselves in the present new NOW moment because someone hurt us in the long ago past.
I often say to people who have deep resentment patterns, please put self-care first by retreating within to dissolve the resentment NOW, when it is relatively easy. Do not waste your life, your time, your gifts of peace, joy, and love.
When we are in a state of chaos or panic, it is difficult to focus our Mental Plane minds on living in the NOW.
We must retreat within to spend self-care time to listen to our inner truth.
If we choose to believe we are helpless victims, then the universe will support us in that belief, and we will just stay struggling in our old NOW chaos.
It is vital that we release the old NOW foolish, outmoded, negative ideas and beliefs that do not support us and nourish us. Even our concept of God needs to be one that is for us, not against us.
To release the past, we must be willing to forgive. We need to choose to release the past and forgive everyone, ourselves included. We may not know how to forgive. And we may not want to forget. The very fact that we say we are willing to forgive begins the healing process.
It is imperative for our own healing that we release the past and forgive everyone. I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you and I set you free. This affirmation sets everyone free.
Forgiveness means giving up, letting go. It has nothing to do with condoning poor behavior. It is just letting the whole thing go. We do not have to know how to forgive. All we need to do is to be willing to forgive. The universe will take care of the rest.
We understand our own pain and then realize that they were doing the best they could with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that they had at that time. Putting self-care first means that it is time to work on Mental and Physical Plane balance and that is loving the self. When we really love and accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, everything in life works.
It is as if little miracles are everywhere. Our health improves. We attract more money. Our relationships become more fulfilling. And we begin to express ourselves in creatively fulfilling ways.
All this seems to happen without our even trying. Loving and approving of yourself, creating a new NOW space of safety, trusting, and deserving and accepting creates organization in your Mental Plane mind. That creates more loving relationships in your Physical Plane life. People who love themselves and their bodies neither abuse themselves nor others. Self-approval and self-acceptance in the new NOW are the main keys to positive changes in every area of life.
Loving the self begins with never, ever criticizing ourselves for anything. Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change. Understanding and being gentle with ourselves helps us to move out of it. Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it has not worked.
Approve of yourself and see what happens.
Putting self-care first is how you change your Mental Plane thoughts and that influences your Physical Plane body. When your body is balanced, your thoughts become positive, creative, and yours. Balancing these two Planes reveals the always and ever available Spiritual Plane abundance. Staying in the moment, while you are in the moment, is living in the NOW on purpose.
The NOW is all we have.
The NOW is all we need.
The NOW is all we get, and it is perfect when we stay in it.
Happy NOW,