NOW we will wrap up the self-defeating habits addressed for June. Those are Physical Plane behaviors and Mental Plane thoughts that hold you back from achieving your goals and living your best life NOW. They are often automatic, unconscious, and counterproductive, and they can have a negative impact on your relationships, health, and well-being. Read on as I add more tips to better understand your old NOW’s self-defeating habits and spend quiet time to decide how to overcome them through self-care first habits. Here are all the tips shared for JUNE! Review, remember, journal, implement and make the choice to always be “Living in the NOW™” on purpose. Happy summer. Happy June. Happy NOW.
June 1st – Identify what self-defeating habits you have
The first step to overcoming self-defeating habits is to identify them. Pay attention to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are holding you back from achieving your goals. Do you procrastinate, self-sabotage, or engage in negative self-talk? If so, you might be acting as your own worst enemy. Once you have identified your old NOW’s self-talk and self-defeating habits, you can begin to work on changing them with the power of your new NOW. Spend time and journal.
June 3rd – Understand the underlying beliefs and emotions
Self-defeating habits often stem from underlying beliefs and emotions that you may not be aware of. In a study on golf participants, they found that those who spoke negatively of their ability and their game were more likely to perform worse than those who engaged in self-affirming language. Mental Plane mastery skills for living in your new NOW on purpose begins with mastering the self-talk that literally creates your pretend world.
For example, you may have a belief that you are not good enough or have a fear of failure that is holding you back. It is important to understand these underlying beliefs and emotions so that you can challenge and change them.
June 5th – Practice self-awareness
Self-awareness is key to overcoming self-defeating habits. How can you work against something that you don’t know exists, much less understand? Grab a pen and paper and take time to listen to your true self and record what’s going on in your Mental Plane mind. Journal work reveals what your true self is whispering. There are many types of journals to peruse by clicking on the pricing dropdown tab over at www.ZitoProHealth.com.
Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors throughout the day. Notice when you engage in self-defeating behaviors and what triggers them. This can help you to better understand your habits and begin to make changes. That awareness time holds you accountable to your promise of living in the NOW on purpose.
June 7th – Use mindfulness techniques
Mindfulness techniques such as meditation and deep breathing can help you to become more self-aware and present in the moments of your new NOW. When you auto-pilot with self-destructive tendencies, the results should not be surprising when your old NOW takes over.
Being present, staying in the perfect NOW moment, can give you far more information on why you do the things you do. Using mindfulness techniques can help you to break out of automatic, self-defeating patterns and make more conscious choices about your thoughts and behaviors.
June 10th – Challenge your negative self-talk
Negative self-talk is a common Mental Plane self-defeating habit that can hold you back from achieving your goals. Pay attention to the messages you are giving yourself and challenge those negative thoughts with evidence-based positive self-talk.
For example, if you are telling yourself that you will never be successful, challenge that thought by reminding yourself of times when you have been successful in the past. Sometimes we struggle to pull up information to challenge these intrusive thoughts, if that’s the case, then set aside self-care first time to sit down and list out some accomplishments or positive experiences that you’ve had over the course of your life so that you might have a better frame of reference moving forward.
June 12th – Set realistic goals
Setting unrealistic goals can lead to feelings of overwhelm and self-defeat. You want your goals to be challenging, but not impossible. It is important to set realistic goals that are achievable and aligned with your values and priorities. The book Small Choices Create Smart Change: Your Success Handbook for Living in the NOW has quotes, prompts, and personal growth resources to support changing your self-talk with practical changes.
Spend self-care time journaling and break larger goals down into smaller, manageable steps and celebrate your progress along the way. As you begin to reach your smaller goals, you’ll develop more self-confidence in your abilities. This self-belief will go a long way in challenging self-defeating habits.
June 14th – Practice self-compassion
Self-compassion involves treating yourself with kindness, care, and understanding, especially in times of difficulty or failure. It is important to practice self-compassion when working on overcoming those old NOW self-defeating habits.
These habits tend to make you overly critical and pessimistic about yourself. When are you the hardest on yourself? Acknowledge that change is a process and be gentle with yourself as you work toward your goals. The Choice to Trust: Face-to-Face Time with My True Self is a transformative book that invites you to embark on a journey of self-care first. Spending time with your true self will then move you to self-inquiry to discover the power of trusting your inner wisdom and seeing your true nature to embrace the essence of who you are.
June 17th – Build a support network
Overcoming self-defeating habits can be challenging, and it can be helpful to seek support from others. Talk to friends, family, or a therapist about your struggles and ask for help and encouragement along the way. Pause NOW to join our private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/livinginthenowchampions and grow with other champion seekers.
Having a positive network not only allows others to pour into you but you are encouraged to become an active champion to support them as well. The act of helping others can often be a powerful way to notice pain points in your own life as you honor self-care first time.
June 19th – Replace self-defeating habits with positive behaviors
Replacing self-defeating habits with positive behaviors is a key step toward lasting change. For example, if you tend to procrastinate, set a timer for a short amount of time and work on a task for that amount of time.
Then, take a break and reward yourself for your progress. This can help you to break out of the self-defeating habit of procrastination and replace it with a more productive behavior. If you can do this, behavior by behavior, then you’ll have a much larger chance at success. The book 52 Weeks to Weave 52 Self-Care Habits Into a New NOW is a powerful Mental Plane mind tool designed to bring awareness and permanent change into your everyday life. There are 52 weeks in your new NOW year and each week offers a suggested habit that you can decide to focus on. Randomly choose one habit to work on for an entire week. Wrap your NOW around one simple behavior and weave it into your new NOW as a positive habit by the end of the week. One habit a week. No pressure. Positive results in your new NOW.
June 21st – Practice self-reflection and journal
Finally, practicing self-reflection is key to understanding your self-defeating old NOW habits and choosing to consistently be making lasting changes in your new NOW. Take time regularly to reflect on your progress, successes, and challenges. Consider what is working for you and what you still need to work on. It’s recommended that you keep a journal to hear your true self whispering your truth.
Along the way, make note of your highs and your lows. What habits did you see and what worked best in counteracting them? As you see patterns form, during this self-inquiry work, you can utilize them to your advantage. This can help you to stay motivated and committed to your goals and promise to stay living in the NOW on purpose.
Understanding your self-defeating habits is the best way to eliminate them from your new NOW path. Life hands us plenty of twists, turns, and even hurdles along the way, so it’s important to control what you can by putting self-care first.
If you incorporate these steps, you’ll have a much easier time understanding the active ways you might be sabotaging your own potential. Take them one NOW at a time. On the path to your aspirations, be your biggest fan!
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Happy NOW,
PJ